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Busy people, busy lives,
All running to to make their earnings,
Working hard to make relations strive,
Ever stopped and asked, Is is worth a Dime?

Have you ever felt like the ONE-SIDED COIN????

Just like in a coin, how the denomination value is engraved on one side and the other has heads of people and pictures of places. In the same way, sometimes in relationships there is one individual who is always adding the value to the relation. When one picks a coin, they look at the side which has the value embossed, and not the one with prints, even though the other side may have it spelt out in words it still is not the side that depicts the value at the immediate instance.

As is the case of some relationships. Sometimes there are relationships like great ventures, motivated investors, hard working stakeholders and happy shareholders. And on the other side, there are Sole traders (lol)....even though it is a partnership, one works hard and the other reaps results. One of you is struggling to keep the spark alive, whilst the other goes out and burns the fuse. Even though the value is clearly spelt out on the one side of the coin....does that side realise it's not just about pretty pictures to paint in life? It's hard work to make things work. Both sides are inseparable and still have different images....still want to portray different views, failing to realise that their value is complete as a whole, ONLY when they come together.

So we start to think and wonder!!! Is it their fault, that they do not realise that you are doing everything to make them happy and all they need to do is sit and relax? Is it their fault, that they never thought that they were not doing their bit in this success? Is it their fault, that they couldn't see that their end of the scale is not balancing the weight of this bond? Is their fault, that you never told them that this ship is sailing cause you are navigating it in storms and holding anchor when it begins to drift from shore? Is it their fault, that they strongly believe that they are doing their fair share and all is going to plan? Or is it their fault, that you can simply not tell them that it's not what you are all about? And then you blame them???? If we can't tell them how we feel, why is it fair to blame them for making us feel this way? And even if we have tried we have definitely not succeeded cause we still continue to feel this way. I think to a certain extent the fault lies in our hands....don't be upset I am on your side but you both are partners in crime. She started but you never stopped....there were issues he picked... you never dropped.

I personally think, that we somehow drift into that category of the one-man battle ship. We don't start off but eventually land up there for no fault of any. In no particular order or priority I believe life gives us a run of the below stated sometime or the other; the CUATROLOGY revealed:

UNO : We are just not cut from the same cloth!!
We maybe close matches, perfect matches, soul mates but we are still different people. Understandable that we have different personalities and mentalities, but somehow one becomes damaging to the sweet harmony. When it started both were signing from the same hymn sheet,
and the same note...and slowly one drifted in to an Alto and other a Sopranao...lol...no matter how much we try we cannot be the same people...we can be split images but we still remain to be split.

DOS : Opposites attract!!
We knew from the start that he/she is definitely different but you feel the urge to try something new. You want that spice, you want that different flavour other than your own palate, you enjoy the taste, you have the hunger and thirst to try out the heat,and then......you get acidity or indigestion....lol. Who asked you to be brave and to order that dish, when you knew in your guts you couldn't stomach it? Now pay the bill!!! They are simply opposites, they cannot feel and understand your way and that's what made you go for them. Who is to blame...?????

TRES : Against the grain!!!
If doing something goes against the grain, you're unwilling to do it because it contradicts what you believe in, but you have no real choice. You chose to be with them. You've made that decision, now you stick with it. And you become the DIY guy/gal in this build. Your not someone that can break a brick and destroy the house. You're someone who will dig deep to lay the foundations right. If the house moves you will get it underpinned so it's steady again. But your not someone to run a bulldozer over the building. You will do everything to make it a home, just like the House Doctor (a show I watch regularly)...wherein Anne Maurice comes to your house that's not selling or not working for you....immediately sights the faults and with bit of elbow grease and tlc makes it habitable or sellable.

CUATRO: Love fool!!
You were the foolish born to make someone happy. You were made in such a way, or you made yourself into it, that you will love boundlessly and get but a speck in return. You will do and die for him/her only to know that not even a tear was shed on your dead body. For you ,they are worth the world, for them you are a world not worth. They enjoy you, they care, but they are not those to show or take the risk. You yearn for their companionship and have to settle for scraps. You want to show them your unconditional love and make them see that life would easy just with a dose of your love. But they just don't want to let that happen. They are stuck on the idea that it's bad science to mix love and life...but love makes life the beauty it is. Only if they could drop their guard and see that you want to be their secret angel and take their sorrows away. NO.... it won't just get through their thick skull. They know it all to well....and as I always say, it will be their loss when doors to this love ATM are closed.


So what do we do? Tell them...simple isn't it?

Doesn't work so simply and I always wonder why. But then I comfort myself with above stated CUATROLOGY (lol) and keep my patience. I have learnt over the years that somethings are not meant to change....to be unearthed. Some people are structured to be the beneficiary and other for life and after, the benefactor. Always going on to add value to a stagnant preposition... pushing for response, waiting for chance..chance to make the other side of the coin see the value on his.

You are the value to this relation and without you it would only be a piece of metal with fancy prints...so don't stop now...cause one day it will merge...one day realisation will surge and life never be the story of just another one-sided coin!!!